Not only have family members — son, daughters and spouses — been on the payroll of the church, but the father writes that Scripture supports the claim of family members to a paid staff position. I know the work the Lord has for me and I will do that work. A wife is to be submissive when there is disagreement in the marital relationship. I would leave the matter alone. Our church just went through a season of vicious attacks on the pastor and some very ugly things were said about him and his family. I plan to pray about this as a couple, but what should we do in the meantime? If so, who could you ask to serve as that third party? Note that both of you came from different homes and backgrounds. Heard something interesting today that was spoken by Tony Evans.
After that, he called me out 3 out of the next 4 weeks, as I was in the pulpit, with loud and unfounded accusations. We review all comments before posting them to reduce spam and offensive content. We need to be tolerant of each other. I would sit down and pray for wisdom. I encourage pastors and their wives to find friends and fellowship outside the church. Vocational ministry can be lonely. We feel ministered to and are thriving at our respective churches, but something about this does not feel right.
In such a situation, both spouses should commit to praying that truth be revealed and spiritual unity be achieved. At first I continued with my old church in the mornings as the Chinese Church met in the afternoons. Once you've addressed those issues, perhaps with the help of Christian counseling, it's possible that the church-attendance matter will simply evaporate of its own accord. One spouse goes ahead and starts to attend the new church, while the other ties off loose ends before joining the first spouse. Some date it to the eleventh century, when the Eastern Orthodox church excommunicated the church of Rome, commonly called the Roman Catholic Church.
Thus, I do not believe that a husband should attempt to dictate to his wife in matters of belief. I don't understand being married and belonging to the same faith, albeit different denominations and going to separate services. Ideally the wife should follow the husband to his church unless there are issues touching on the nature of his religious denomination that should be addressed. This was very hard for me, as I had been there for 12 years teaching in the Christian school and knew everyone so well. Trouble only starts when the nonchurch going spouse decides to go to church - but just not the one the Christian spouse belongs to. You know this is not ideal.
From a recent blog post of mine: No ministry experience has been more painful for me, as a wife and mother, than when my children were unduly criticized because their dad is a preacher. I have a great ministry and feel so much love and support from the people I serve. We both want a church with strong evangelical beliefs, that takes preaching seriously, is warm and welcoming, and that wants to reach non-Christians. He comes with me for Mass and I go to church with him; when we're married, we'll be registered at the local parish and be functioning members at his church. If one of you goes to my church, I would actually tell you to go to the other church rather than remain at the Bible Church with your divided communities.
How you relate to the local church is teaching your children ecclesiology. All of this raises potential problems of supervision and management for the congregation and the elder board, if they are willing to give it a serious look. It almost drove her from the church. Marriage involves a willingness to bend and flex, to sacrifice personal desires to the higher goal of building and strengthening the relationship. However, two things spring to mind.
I don't think he's Christian at all. Another lady in church said the wreaths hanging in the church needed redone or new ones made. A second reason is Family Togetherness. That means you correct the person who spoke or behaved inappropriately with your spouse or child. I have very little respect for such weaklings.
May God bless you and your husband for adopting your two precious Hispanic children. The marriage covenant between a man and a woman is symbolic of the covenant between Christ and those for whom He died. I don't know they don't seem to see anything wrong with it because they are actually in it were I am on the outside looking in type of thing. Do everything you can to devise a compromise both of you can live with. This does not mean that the husband is the dictator. A worship minister shared with us this tragic story. We do go to seperate churches.
Would it be better for a pastor or any Christian for that matter to divorce their spouse because they have a different faith? I think the Word of God would be contradicted if that were so, and I categorically believe that cannot and will not happen. You have to value reading the Bible. He serves there also and is an elder. One important biblical principle that is supposed to be lived out, is one set down by God Himself which tells us that once we marry, we are to partner with our spouse above all others. Hope I see her in heaven. But hopefully this is a short term solution, and once the marriage begins to heal both spouses should gladly worship together again.