While you don't want to remain in your grief, it is necessary to realize you have been affected deeply by things you could not control. We have been friendly for the sake of meeting our children's needs amicably. It felt good to just write this and put it it in the world anonymously. That I feel beyond horrible for. I am better able to access my situation because of them. Just know I feel for you.
A woman , on the other hand, he has learned, they can burn you. Now I found about his ex. I use to argue back and try to explain myself but since its always about him i have decided not to say a word. Didn't wash that plate well enough? I often feel regret and think about the good old days when it was just my kids and I. I try to be kind, respectful. He has stopped all that as they are all broaching 30.
But if you love yourself, you will be able to see if truly you do feel unloved or cheated in your relationship - in which case, it might be time to leave. I want to leave him, but im afraid to. It may take some counseling to get you two back on track, but it may be a better choice than confrontations or endings. Only six months away and we could have our very late honeymoon then. Men, and women will experience this change.
When he comes back he gives me the silent treatment and ignores me, saying that everyone disrespects him and that i am always right and he will always be wrong. Is there something I can help you hurdle over? By contract as of the first of January his vacation time jumped to five weeks and his personal time he had never used went to 4 weeks with his 35 years seniority and everyone knew, at that point there was nothing any one could do if he wanted his time off any time he wanted he could say he wanted off and just walk off the job. He never wants to hear my side of the story. I almost an starting resent them which is horrible to say. Get a support team of Christians to talk with and pray for you.
. I am willing to relocate so he has a relationship with his daughter but he is not doing anything about pushing this divorce. But he still can care less about me. The bottom line is if you really feel you are the recipient of any kind of hateful language or behavior, then remove yourself from the environment. Also my husband said that she was terrible to him and he wanted out.
I share so many of these feelings. That she is no more interested in the marriage and that the love for me is no more in her heart in short that the love is death long time ago. I'm not sure what happened. I know everyday won't be rainbows and butterflies but when someone comes home and you can tell they are just looking for something to be out of place or not done their way to make you feel the way they must feel on the inside, it makes staying in the relationship very hard. I am currently crying after reading this article and the comments because I can relate so heavily to certain parts. It's an isolated feeling, and for a long time I have thought that I was alone in my feelings of discouragement and resentment.
However on the flip it's sad knowing how many adults can't seem to get a handle on how they handle stress, themselves, their health, whatever may be. Sometimes our men are overburdened by our neediness, we can relieve that by getting some of our needs met by Christian friends, needs for love and companionship, attention and affection. He is not physically abusive but I would say verbally and emotionally. We dont have any children because there is no intimacy at all. Anger is within a person.
As a mother I sure wouldn't want the father of my children to have a second wife! I worked hard really, really dmn hard the first years so that the children from his 1st 2 marriages always felt welcome. Holidays are pretty much ruined. But ww are trying to work on our marriage but now hes upset for a late return phone call i told him i was busy but he got upset and cut the phone off and truthfully i really do care to much about giving second. Abuse is rampant, both physical and otherwise. Escpecially during hard times which can just remind you that there is the possiblility that you can show this child, for a second time, that commitment isn't a real thing. I also see that I have been both emotionally and verbally abusive throughout our marriage. I discplined her and would give her a smacked and tell her to go to her room but she wouldnt.
I think my husband still loves me, but sometimes I also think we have a love — hate relationship and I am just not happy with the course our marriage has taken. Or am I doing something wrong? For all i know he has so many many more secrets that i may never find out and he definitely will never confess. I do know that The Lord as sent my best friend from 40 years ago to retire here out of the blue. I would encourage a period of separation so that possibly your husband may see how damaging his behavior is. Now it's been about 8 months since he's slept in the bed with me res been sleeping on the couch.
I take responsibility for my actions but I feel like this man has ruined me and made me an ugly person. Anonymous wrote:Your post could have described me, at times, minus the telling my children I don't love them. Everything is fine and good and he often talks about how lucky he is and we are. I got really mad and yelled back I have a hard time keeping everything bottled up. In the adrenaline rush of even low-grade anger, everyone feels entitled and more important than those who have stimulated their anger. Tragically, such people tend to repel others, and then become more embittered against people for rejecting them.