Cause clearly the thought of losing that person doesn't scare u enough. I have checked his phone and all conversations are really innocent no flirting unless he is deleting them. A woman from hubby's work started going to the same gym as him on lunches, then they started riding together. I am afraid that this will happen over and over again. If they were strong, your dam right they would put in the work it takes to face it all, figure it out, understand why or how they had an underlying feeling of not good enough, not manly enough, not capable enough, whatever feeling they could get in touch with at the deepest root of their core souls, etc. If the canary died, it signalled the need for a quick exit.
And it began with him erasing all his texts no history, ever. Finding out that your other half has been sexting when you thought your relationship was going well is a horrible situation to be in. I think the texts hurt me more than the pictures. I have never been with anyone else. So ask yourself if you think you can. You've already communicated to him that it bothers you, now it's his turn to stop it. In my situation, I'm just glad it happened sooner than later.
I tried telling him how hurt I am and he just keeps repeating the same things, that they don't have feelings for each other and that she wants to be my friend. Does this text fit in with other strange behaviour? As, if I wasn't having a hard enough time getting over it, her daughter and my son were put into the same classroom in school. Your answers to them will determine whether or not you two can make this work. Sexting is increasingly popular amongst adults and can be a fun way to enhance your sex life with your partner. I have never strayed from the marriage through turbulent times because I believe in my vows to try salvage what we had. His phones were at 100% too.
When I moved back home to Austin I decided to look him up. You can make the choice to be in control of your happiness or let someone else do it for you. Just reminding her that it is important to find ways for some form of intimacy for future relationships. I found out that he keeps on calling or texting this office mate. I do believe that he wants to have a serious relationship with me. I am confident that nothing is going to disrupt my marriage in spite of my texting my ex. He was apologetic yet made tons of excuses.
Word of advice is the cell phone is not the only way to have a texting affair. L July 15, 2013, 9:08 pm Hello all, I can honestly say that cheating is cheating! But if he were to have an affair, I would leave him. But like some of your comments, it was not a mistake, it was a choice…a choice which denied my access to a loving husband. I have tried everything you said and more. The followup msg stated she made him feel so youthful hes 62 , and she made him breathe cause is is suffocating. You will also avoid the trap — which many women fall into after an affair is discovered — of blaming yourself for not acting sooner. She is not happy in her relationship.
I said it was inappropriate and hurting me and our marriage. Your choices are to put up with him as he is or dump him. He refused it at first. I can have a few guesses — like laughing over private chats with other women — but the real answer will be found from before all this happened. Saw it one night on her phone and he was coming onto her.
Grounds for divorce, no question. I'm furious with her For not respecting my daughter And giving her her much needed daddy time without being interrupted. Do you feel angry and upset but decide to say nothing and hope it goes away? Btw I moved back to my moms 5 month now since catching him sexting another women. This is one of the reasons I divorced him. You will be fine whether you are in one or not. Do they communicate at home away from work and on the weekends? For better, or for Worse, in Sickness and in Health — until death do you part.
I think you are totally right CatsMeow — there are plenty shades of grey — even when we are loathe to admit it. I asked for how long they have been messaging. If he refuses, well then you know how important his marriage is to him, and you have to decide how important it is to you. Can you not snoop through his phone? Facebook messaging at first, then facetiming, then he went over there for a week, he spent the last evening with her, held hands with her, spent time in her apartment, alone, with her and kissed her. To and from numbers, the times, the dates. If he is remorseful, and you are willing, give him a chance to grow from this experience and see how it plays out.