Married about 32 years ago because our son was born a few months before that. At this point he just stopped replying. He had planned a big surprise b-day party for me couple days before he broke up and it made me so happy that he made such a huge effort to be with all my friends and coordinate this event with so many people I care about. That said I would've moved to Belgium in a heartbeat if he'd asked. We talked afterwards and the communication was the best it had been in awhile.
Remind yourself that if it is early in the breakup phase, it is probably best neither of you are talking. He was crushed, utterly bewildered and destroyed. Indeed, a heartbreak like this is a difficult one to bounce back from. This seems so crazy and I am so devastated. Sometimes it's right not to be silent.
There were no hugs and kisses, just formal conversations. Unexpectedly, he wrote me a long message over fb a few months later saying that he regretted everything and that I was the most amazing woman he had ever known, etc. You just need to be 100% open and serious about controlling the illness and be able to prove to him that you both can be happy together in spite of the bipolar. She sent a text saying that she was concerned about my mother! Im not trying to sound alarmist but these are just the facts on the ground. This page is going to focus solely on the women who initiated the break up. Yep, in only 4 months it went form love to nothing.
I thought he felt the same, he treated me really well and told me he wanted to be with me forever, etc. I've also surprised him with lunch at his work a couple of times - he says thank you but no call later or anything. I just wanna say I still think you are a great person. I put up a wall and detached myself when the abuse became too much. Guys only begin to mature in their late thirties so better to get a better spouse then. We kept in touch for that first month i think we were both hurting He said he misses me. Like your guy, mine has similarly told me that he loves me but thinks I should move on, because our relationship is certain to end badly he knows this because all his relationships have ended badly and he doesn't want me to get more hurt.
Then you both need to learn some fair fighting and problem solving methods. That is so important, not matter what happens with this relationship. Time for us to move on and find what we both want. I'd really appreciate any input. It is not an unusual for those going through a breakup.
Anonymous Hi Andrew, I'm particularly interested in this post because of something that happened just this weekend. Well, I guess that i will wait until Thursday tomorrow for him to contact me about Saturday. We had figured out stuff about kids, where to live, working on our business together, etc. Dumb, I know but I was hurt he didn't let me know. Kind of a nice way to turn the tables, huh? That he was the one I wanted to spend my life with.
I have actually met plenty of attractive men in college but I wasn't emotionally available enough to find one who didn't treat me badly although I'm far from perfect myself. If your boyfriend does accept it, then that means he is willing to be the step-father of your child. Again he messages me that he loved me. I school had started up again and I was in between classes when I got his e-mail. There are a lot of possible breakup scenarios that can unfold. You could say I missed out on a big opportunity but I've had to work a tonne on myself.
Anyway long story short, he carries a lot of emotional and family baggage and as time went on, I just was not attracted to him anymore. I made up a reason that we should break up that I fully believed to be truth at the time, but in hindsight it was not. Leader Board Leading Today Pts Helpful 1. It is like having kids. You can at least take comfort in that people do care.
I am going to be straight with you. I feel bad because I totally overreacted with breaking up with him, but he was no angel in our relationship either. He seemed like he wanted to stop the break-up and say something but didn't but apologized for being mean and said that he has just had a lot on his mind and didn't want to take it out on me. It was more than just love at first sight. Once things started getting serious, I cut all contact with my ex. We actually had a normal and nice conversation by text.