I don't think they dislike you, I assume they just don't trust you with their homeboy. It does not matter if we hang out all night or for a couple hours before we both have to work, we make the most out of our time together which helps grow our bond stronger every day. As long as you have these things it does not matter what age, race, religion, gender or any other aspects your significant other may possess. He has a child with another woman and although I knew this coming into the relationship I was not prepared for all the drama. I realise you find him attractive and exciting. This is probably a pattern for him. But it is your boyfriend's job to rein his friends in, and stick up for you.
This is not the choice someone else may have made, they may have gone down a different path, or chosen a different type of partner. How many friends are you willing to loose because of him? You need to find out what's up with that. Odds are more against it not working with too wide a gap. A female reader, , writes 7 March 2011 : Why do you need to keep it a secret for another year? And, why are you offering your opinion to him about his child? This is what you are signing up for when you date a man with a baby momma. If so, you should probably stop seeing him.
Tagged as: , , Question - 7 March 2011 4 Answers - Newest, 9 March 2011 A female age 22-25, anonymous writes: how do i tell my friends and parents that my boyfriend is 11 years older than me. Its sometimes the best thing just to support a partner by giving him what he needs in your dynamic and give him a refuge then becoming a pseudo-parent style partner which is tiring and not useful. The problem can become as people age they go through different life stages. This applies to possible spouses of any age. If they stay stuff like that in front of you you have the right to defend yourself. So, after grappling with my own insecurities and the societal taboos, there were also the judgments of friends and family.
And maybe somewhere down the road, things will be different for both of you. When I express this to my boyfriend he gets really upset and defensive. Are you in a marriage with a large age-gap? I'm no expert, but I'd say I'm doing pretty well. I couldn't imagine myself dating someone who was 19 and actually expecting it to last. What about him, around your friends? If you and your partner have a significant age difference, you know exactly what I'm talking about. Don't try to go out of your way to please rude people.
Well, they did produce a child together. Will he want them around all the time? We have absolutely everything in common and love doing the same things. I thought I'd answer this one since my partner is also 11 years my senior, so I've had the same question cross my mind many a time. But what comes after life, for the Believer, is more wonderful than this world can ever be. However, some things you need to consider and speak about: 1 Do you both want to get married? Jealous he's found someone younger 2. Attraction compatibility common interests and chemistry is important. Why get invested in this situation? Therefore, your opinions, thoughts, or judgments are not warranted, needed, or desired.
Younger adults today appear to have a wide variation in ideas on family, and taken along with the fact that how a family is being defined is changing daily, this could be an issue. After looking after my cousin who is 30 and her kids she needs constant attention because she has borderline and bi polar personality I find it very difficult to connect to people my age, I am unsure why has anyone here been in a reletionship with a large age gap? It was very easy for Marty and me to relate to each other. For example i started telling my parents about girls who date older men blah blah of course as a mother my mother started getting suspicious if i was dating an older man, so when she asked i answered yes, many questions followed after that but at the end of the day my parents agreed and now im in a very happy relationship and my parents are my biggest support. We're happy where we're at and that's all that I have to say. So I wanted out of the marriage. In fact, I don't think that I've seriously dated anyone who wasn't at least fifteen years older. There was nothing else I could have really done.
I think I could hang out with his friends but do you think he could hang out with mine? For some kind of context thing, I am 35 years old and she is 48 obviously. After two years, I knew I had to move on or risk being dragged into a very unhealthy place. It's not even that big a deal because you aren't having sex with him. What are his religious views? Basically, marrying someone this much older comes with lots of draw backs especially when you will one day care for him in his old age, assuming it lasts. That means he's actually a decent guy. A female reader, , writes 7 March 2011 : I am a little worried for you to be completely honest.
He has always wanted a family and is so excited and happy that he has one now and I think appreciates it more because he waited so long. He genuinely likes them and they feel the same for him. And even if it were so, I have my own job and I support myself, with or without a man. When they did find out, I was very angry and threw a lot of rebellious fits. Which is true to a certain extant, but they don't take the time to get to know me, they just assume I'm some immature college kid who's obsessed with frat parties. I couldn't hang out with the guy again and I was so upset.
I hope this helps you understand. His friends don't take the time to get to know me either, and I'm just guessing maybe it's because they're either 1. He's in a different generation than you; he shouldn't be a decade behind emotionally. But all the men in my life , starting from my dad, uncles they just can stand that. No matter what the age difference, someone is going to do the math and compare it to when you were child to whatever age they were when you were that child. The choices we make now will affect us for generations to come.
Just make sure you are trusting a man like my father and not someone who will use your innocence against you. I was that girl he had been praying for. I know how stressful it can be. Does he already have kids? Its healthy to meet new people and find new friends. I wish I could make us closer together because I hate telling people how old he is. Follow your heart and not what's trendy or not with society and friends.