He said its only been this one time recently that he was tempted to do it but for some reason I don't believe him. An open and honest discussion about your concerns would be the best way to go, and to come to a compromise regarding his use. I am full of emotions. I know most of you would think I'm very navie to believe he didn't use it that night. We've been married for 7 years and have two small kids.
But with just barely touching a year and being only 18 theres still alot more hope. All I can do is to trust him and see what will happened. Working all day and taking care of your child then running out to get him and adding a whole schedule of maintenance for him is a lot. I am in a similar situation. I think any realtionship that starts with abuse of any drug booze, weed, ect. There is strength in numbers and you don't have to do this alone. My partner of 11 years was also using and he became seriously addicted.
I would love to know what I can do. I tried so hard in the last couple weeks. Why are you still with him. I never got a chance to make a choice. I was very disappointed but not mad when I got his text messages on the next morning. I have been married for over 3 years, together with her for 8.
Is he not allowed to do anything you don't like? The biggest change I've noticed is his personality. I love my wife, I probably always will. You pay only what you can. He then proceeded to get completely fucked out of his head for an entire week while his work suffered and he made himself ill. If you choose to be around anyone that takes coke then at some stage you will be involved in their antics, criminal or otherwise.
So read all over the forum sites and post on Friends and Family too if you want. He added that it was a once in a blue moon thing, and that he wouldn't be doing it every weekend. Gabriel, I'm really sorry to hear what happened. Next morning when he woke up, he found drug on him, he was terrified and flushed it away He didn't use it that night, not just from what he told me, he told his friends the same. Wishing you a good life Hi guys, It's me again. This is very hard but I know I have made the right desision and will not go back on it.
It seems that you're going through a good bit of turmoil both inside and out. He loved his sons, worked hard, and cared about other people. He was buttering me up. And amphetamines are amphetamines, speed, coke, ecstasy. Thank you for your words. Goes to bed late and wakes up late when he used to do the complete opposite. If you can't consider life with an addict - and there's nothing to say you should - then you need to cut your losses and quit this, now.
Hi Gabriel, I will be keeping my fingers crossed for you guys! Kel, you asked me what will I do if one test comes up positive. All I can say is I would try to sit your boyfriend down and try to have a serious conversation with him if you can. These emotions can come through in how they interact with you, such as thinly veiled jabs or backhanded compliments. I think it's ridiculous when people say addict's need to be clean for years before they are worth your time. He didn't seem to like that very much since his parents are the socialites of our community. . But fast forward 25 or so years.
I feel like if I don't find a way to help him, if I just leave, then I am deserting him and his children when they need me most. He doesn't understand how I know he is doing it. He promised he will stay sober and just couple drinks. This is not the kind of crazy life that I ever wanted, or anybody for that matter ever wants. Somebody please talk to me. He was never physically abusive toward me but there were no guarantees that he wouldn't be. I believe you are just beginning to see all the lies.
Because of this problem we have nothing but our son. Best luck and wishes in the future, regardless of what it may hold for you. I put some of that blame on me, I probably chose the pills over her on occassions and made her feel unimportant and less than beautiful. Going to a club with friends he know drink and use drugs. . I have split form my husband 6 months ago because of his cocaine addiction and the behaviour that went along with that. Same as any kind of opiate use.
It's poison, and the pain and suffering it causes is unbelievable! I was so appalled though. I see what you're trying to say, but the thought of taking the drug itself isnt usually smiled upon. Nancy Man does this sound familiar. I dunno, I can tell that he has the heart to change it, but I'm afraid. They may be avoiding you because they feel guilty about talking behind your back, or they may be trying to telegraph that they are angry.