Your folks are older and have learned much over the years, try to understand where they are coming from. My parents are long gone, but after that night they eventually learned to love him too. Contact Legistify on our helpline number 011-33138123, or visit us. If somebody is forcing you to marry, they are violating your Right to Life and Human Rights under Article 16 of the Human Rights Convention. Ok, I think I need to clarify a few things here. Share on Facebook Share on Twitter Refrain from posting comments that are obscene, defamatory or inflammatory, and do not indulge in personal attacks, name calling or inciting hatred against any community.
Now, we plan to get married secretly and live separately for a few months. This requires you to be extremely strong, assertive and confident in your being. Their website has detailed information about how they deal with complaints. And then at a panchayat allegedly held at the local police station they were excommunicated from the village. And it does happen, because love trumps ego, hate and all such emotions.
The police, however, say the incident in being probed and the couple will be given adequate protection. The incident occurred last Wednesday on July 25 and came to light only after pictures of the act taken by one of the accused, which were put on social media, went viral. They allegedly tied the husband to a pole and beat him up. Thank you for visiting and for the lovely words. And when marriage ceases to be a family concern and becomes a purely private matter, family obligations of all kinds are forgotten. However, almost all of his relatives are now gone.
Thank you for visiting and for your excellent comment. I would recommend you to seek a few sessions of professional guidance to help you navigate through those challenges and muster the courage to still marry him, but with minimizing the damage to your relationship with parents. Arranged marriage and forced marriage are different. If this is the only issue that your parents have against him, then get it out of the way so that there won't be ill feeling from the get go. They belonged to different castes and met at a party, reports say.
This page contains news relating to various facts and events. Naturally, you will get input here that may conflict with what your parents would say. Because marriage is usually delayed until people have finished studying and found a job, brides and grooms are growing older. They were also mercilessly beaten up by the goons. I became ill 10 years ago and he has taken care of me the whole illness. I know we will be hurting them but we are unable to find another solution. In addition she has a story in the anthology: Lavender Dreams and three poems in Prompted: An International Collection of Poems.
The problem is our families do not get well together and hence, are against our marriage. But change is afoot, especially in the crowded, sprawling cities where a growing proportion of Indians live. I hope you find the answers you are looking for. A circular issued by Additional Director General of Police, Civil Rights, Junga Srinivasa Rao on Wednesday said security will be provided to couples who go for inter-caste and inter-religious marriages. According to police, the couple- both tribals of Hardaspur- had married against the wishes of the woman's parents in May this year and had left for Gujarat.
The girl's parents on the other hand were caste fanatics. Added to that conditioning, I am sensing that it is the genuine feeling of love towards them which is making you feel torn inside as you do not want to be the cause of their pain or hurt in any way. Firstly, I believe that no one knows and understands your needs better than your parents, sometimes even better than yourself. In another case, a Gujjar girl was killed by her parents for marrying a Meena boy in September 2015. Are their reasons purely selfish, or do they see a danger in your future husband or wife? Rav Pinchas Horowitz Sefer Ha-Miknah, Kiddushin 31b s. To make a long story short, my marriage ended badly. Disclaimer : We respect your thoughts and views! Bhawna Yadav, 21, was allegedly killed by her parents in their apartment in Delhi early on Monday, and then cremated at the family's native village in Alwar in Rajasthan, police said.
He often comes in late and is sick on the floor. The courting couple talked long into the night on their mobile phones. Mr Seth works as a computer programmer at the Rashtrapati Bhavan President's House , while she was a university student. Write to us: contact thebetterindia. You, on the other side is looking at it in an emotional way. You, of course, had to suffer it all. When men cross the age of 30, they are not questioned or forced to get married.
It is also a form of gender violence, since it usually involves mental abuse, emotional blackmail, and coercion from either the family or society. And for you too, the occasion will be robbed of the happiness you have always dreamt of, if done secretly. A 21-year-old tribal woman and her 23-year-old husband were kidnapped, thrashed, tonsured and made to drink urine by the woman's family for marrying against their wishes in the village of Hardaspur, 25 km from Alirajpur district in Madhya Pradesh. The incident took place in Alirajpur, Madhya Pradesh, India, and was recorded and shared online by one of the alleged attackers. While I don't completely shoot down arranged marriages might work out for some , I think that personally I'm not really made for that. They later took her body to the hillocks at Mallapur village in Nirmal district late in the night and set it ablaze.
When they returned, Shama claims her uncles threatened them. It seems like you are describing my history. Is your future husband or wife a Christian? It is possible that they are against the marriage because of their concern for your long term happiness with your partner. I feel alot of guys would have walked. Love Commandos Phone Helplines: 09313784375, 09313550006 If anybody obtains the consent of the complaining party by force, or by fraud, a court can void the marriage. Conservatives consider the changes outrageous. When drunk, he can be violent: recently he tried to strangle Nirmala, injuring her neck.